Tooled Up Education

Parenting a Child at Boarding School: Strategies for Staying Connected and Close

It is not uncommon for the parents of children who board to feel both excited for the opportunities that lie ahead for their children, whilst also feeling a little apprehensive about the separation. What is our role during term-time and how can we optimally support the school and our children during this period? How should we approach emails, phone calls and e-communication with our children in ways that benefit everyone? What strategies can we put in place to manage our own worries and wobbles and ensure they don’t get transferred to our children? How can we ensure our children make the most of the boarding experience but also enjoy their time at home in ways that feel enjoyable for all? Dr Gauri Seth answers all of your questions.

The Best Family Friendly Festivals This Summer

We’ve carefully curated a list of family friendly festivals across the UK and mainland Europe that guarantee an unforgettable experience for the whole family. From captivating performances to engaging activities for kids and adults alike, these festivals offer the perfect blend of entertainment, safety, and fun.

There’s a Time and a Place Quiz

This is a quiz to help us understand that there is a ‘time and a place’ for saying what is in our heads and a time to keep things to ourselves and stay quiet. If we say something to someone in particular situations or at particular times, it can be seen as rude, disruptive or even unkind. This quiz provides scenarios for teachers or parents to work through, reflect on or even role play. The aim is to develop a level of empathy for others, to encourage children and teens to ‘think first’ before talking and to praise them for coming up with new ideas that mean interactions with others work better.

Coping with a Parent’s Alcoholism: Worksheet for Primary-Age Children

This resource is designed to help adults engage younger children in supportive conversations about a parent’s alcoholism. We invite children to gently open up about worries they may have, give them confidence to ask questions and demonstrate that there are people in their lives who are prepared to help answer those questions. This resources also features a question and answer section written for adults to use, with guideline responses suggested by NACOA (National Association for the Children of Alcoholics).

Parenting Behaviours Audit

Consistent parenting with an agreed set of behavioural boundaries will help your child to flourish, so it’s something we should all be aiming for. If you co-parent, taking half an hour together to audit each other’s strengths and to consider the things that you agree and disagree on can be a fruitful way of developing a more cohesive parenting approach. Use this template to spark the conversation.

Researcher of the Month: Mishika Mehrotra Discusses the Importance of Dinnertime Conversation

Our researcher of the month, Mishika Mehrotra, talks to Dr Weston about the importance of mealtime conversation between parent and child. Join us to learn more about why mealtimes are so important, what Mishika will be investigating and how to encourage children to open up during family chat around the table. Mishika is currently pursuing a PhD at the University of Cambridge as a Gates Cambridge Scholar, and is definitely a researcher to watch out for in the future!

Template for Difficult Conversations

Approaching difficult conversations can be nerve-wracking. Relational coach, Sally Graham’s conversation model was originally devised for use with professional colleagues, but we think it can be applied to any situation – at home, at work or with friends. It helps to structure these tricky chats, provides suggested sentence starters and helps participants to shape what could be an awkward discussion into something productive and worthwhile.

Family Audit Template

It can be useful to have periodic family conversations where you all evaluate things that are working well in family life and things that could do with tweaking or improving. This template might help to frame the chat and will give all family members the chance to think about things that work well and things that don’t before you all talk together. Print out a copy for each of you beforehand and use it to make notes, observations and goals about family life.