This game for children up to the age of 12 focuses on ‘relational bullying’, where young people are unkind to each other in various insidious ways, such as spreading rumours, eye rolling or exclusion. It nudges children to identify these unkind behaviours and then consider how they might make others feel. It also prompts them to think about their values around being kind to others and identify how friends should treat one another.
Relational aggression is an insidious type of bullying. Rather than causing physical harm, relational aggression is intended to hurt someone’s personal relationships or social standing. It can take on many different forms and can often be subtle and hard to recognise. In this exercise, we encourage you and your teen to consider different types of relational aggression and reflect on your family values when it comes to kindness and how to treat others.
This is a quiz to help us understand that there is a ‘time and a place’ for saying what is in our heads and a time to keep things to ourselves and stay quiet. If we say something to someone in particular situations or at particular times, it can be seen as rude, disruptive or even unkind. This quiz provides scenarios for teachers or parents to work through, reflect on or even role play. The aim is to develop a level of empathy for others, to encourage children and teens to ‘think first’ before talking and to praise them for coming up with new ideas that mean interactions with others work better.
Kindness comes in many forms. This activity is designed for use in school, but can equally be used at home. It encourages children to notice all the kind things that they do for others. When they do something kind, they take this book to their teacher (or a family member) to get it stamped. We’ve included plenty of ideas for them to try, but there’s also lots of space for them to write down their own kind acts that we haven’t thought of.
Fundraising and donating to charity are great ways to build compassion, promote kindness and introduce children to the value and benefits of money. Use this list of 35 ideas to inspire your children to support the causes that they feel passionate about.
Kindness and empathy have far-reaching psychological and social consequences. Being kind and empathetic are skills that can be taught and reading has been found to help with their development. Here’s a list of books to build empathy for children of all ages.
Dr Weston Talks with Professor Robin Banerjee: Transition, Peer Relationships, Kindness and Success – Rethinking Wellbeing
In this podcast, Dr Weston talks with Professor Robin Banerjee about the connections between peer relationships, kindness and wellbeing, especially at points of transition or change in our children’s lives. They discuss initiatives to help prioritise wellbeing at the point of entry to secondary school and university, consider systemic social changes that might be needed to really promote wellbeing and chew the fat on how to ensure that young people feel empowered to form positive social connections.
We have designed this journal for your teens to fill in over a 14 day period. It aims to encourage them to reflect on their experiences and achievements and build resilience. It provides prompts that can help them to develop and maintain a positive mindset and improve wellbeing.
One of the most powerful, evidence-based ways to cultivate kindness that we can adopt at home or in school is ‘counting’ acts of kindness’, by creating a list of ideas and ticking them off as we perform them. How many of our acts of kindness can your children complete?
Our researcher of the month, Dr Jesus (Jess) Alfonso D. Datu talks to Dr Weston about the importance of teaching children to be kind and the far-reaching psychological and social consequences of kindness. They discuss Dr Datu’s recent paper which examined whether fostering kindness in young people could promote media literacy.